Saturday, December 17, 2011

Am I Fine?

           Am I Fine? (Here it doesn't meant the look rather it speaks out the trait.) Do anyone know whether I'm fine or not? No one can answer this except myself! Then why I intends to ask " Am I Fine? " Because the Earth not includes "Me" alone to believe in "I can survive alone". Our environs includes some more and more some ones to care for. Someones may be Kiths and Kins and everyone we met. Where Kins are those who are related by blood as parents and some others. They wont analyse us instead they try to satisfy us of our needs and rectify us in some of our mistakes which is explicitly known.

       
        But the Kiths who are unknown may know more about us. In this hastening world we are spending more time being away from our family. The first three years since our birth are the fabulous days which never return back once lost because only on those days we are completely nestled into the warmth of love of our parents where our world too includes ourself and our parents alone. But once we stepped up to jumble with new ones we have to face up lots of gainsays. Per day approximately we spend 8 Hrs for sleeping and 8 Hrs for education or employment, and the remaining 8 Hrs might be with family. Even the latter might failed to many who stays in hostels for studies or who staying away from family due to their job. 
           So at the most we are intended to spend most part of our life with unknowns who are known to us as friends, class mates, teachers, colleagues, neighbours, leaders and so and so. Every one we met in our life such as some may spent just few minutes with us but they may left some foot prints in our life where some may wish to be with us with whom we wont fit to and some more to whom we wish to be with but often get pain of ignorance. This single Life contains everything and everyone we destined to be with. We cant refrain from getting something or meeting someone to which we are destined to. So we are in need to mellow us to handle the unique traits of people belongs to our environ. For easygoing with ours we must assure ourself for "Am I fine?".

     
           I believe in self contemplation which could mellow ourself to be a better one. It gives a complete study of resolved puzzles about "Am I fine with what I am leading to? How I am to others? Am I good in relationship with others?Are my Parents happy with my conduct? Do my friends feel better with me? When I get fury? When I get stressed? What are my faves and disfavors? and so on ". It must be analysed by ourselves considering how we react in dissimilar situations. Many may say "I want to be myself. Why I want to consider about what others think about me? " It is true and most of us agree with this. Me too. Possessing this thought makes me to spend my days being stubborn and lonely being alone in classes, not joining with others for any matters, where no one will consider me as me too belongs to the same class and not in classes alone I was departed everywhere from everyone .
          Now I felt very crappy to think back? I dont know why my brain not interested in forgetting those crappy memories. I just came out of it by enjoying the other face of Life which makes me to realize myself about How have I been in my past? But now it looks strange and enjoyable having fine moments with others, making others happy, handling the every situations with smile, and to love everyone and to be loved by others, extending my hands to wipe their tears, someone lending shoulder to hold my tears. Its doesn't mean that we must be fine with whom we are related to. It also meant to be better to who are all we met, adjusting with unalike traits of people and trying to learn something from them (How we should and How we should not). Because we too may do the same mistake which we find with others. This cant be achieved in few seconds where for me it tooks some few years to rescue myself. Many may analyse our characters and can guide us for our better behaviours but no one can read us completely and handle us and the only one who can handle our heart better is ourselves. Be ourselves and be better to others!

Friday, December 9, 2011

Remnant Of Dreams!

           Our human mind often darts with myriad desires. Its extreme is endless. But everything we desire are not achievable. Some daydreams may be such as becoming a millionaire in a single day or to become an angel or god using galaxy power as we seen in Tamil films or to facilitated with ability to read our academic books in fraction of seconds as Chitti(Robo) did in Endhiran. Every one would have experienced such a stargazes. Me too! We know that it is impossible to achieve but even though our human mind often wish to have a fun with our thoughts.


          Every dreams or desires are not fantasy. If we decide something as it must be achieved, then it is necessary to analyse the obstacles we going to face and the aftermath too for the better success. Yes, the success remains stable where the obstacles are delicately tackled and the consequences are drew reined. If we are really longing for something, our mind obsessively clung with it irrespective of its possibilities and consequences. The consequences may be good or bad. In such stage everyone won't act in a similiar manner. Some may analyse it whether we are desiring the right thing and also consider the future consequences to plan completely about what to do, how much effort we must put into and so on. 
          But some have a strong belief in "Everything is possible! Nothing is impossible!" without considering obstacles and consequences. It greatly works with higher effort to gain as we expected. But the success depends on the possibilities and how delicately we make for it. This is the stage where we move in to the control of our mind and we await for the chances to achieve it. Our desire often drove us to stargazes. The firm determination and Self-confidence helps to achieve our possibilities. Only the possibilities! 

          
           The great mistake we use to do while we aiming at something is expecting and imagining the output(the gain or positive result) before giving up the proper input. Its like having count on profit before commencing the bussiness. Analysing the profit is not the mistake but the problem here is dreaming about the gain before lossing the effort would make it hurtful when we unfortunately fails in it. Its so hurtful when our dreams getting away as illussion.
         It is not like that we can only achieve if we do things without expectations. Eventhough if we didn't expect anything too it hurts if we failed. Our pity little heart oft feels for failures, make guilt trip for mistakes, trapped by the distress due to loss. Its the human nature. But the pain in loss would be less effective and joy in success would be more if we put ourselves into whatever we do without having count on output. The failure on something which ate up our efforts would sow the confidence to try out it again where we have a count on neither success nor failure. And as same the happiness on achieveing something unexpectedly gives higher pleasure than anything achieved as we expected. Its always remains as a remnant of our dreams in retentions of our success for ever.